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Meditation
Instructions
Traditionally this meditation begins with the self. In
the world culture it is very difficult for many people to offer loving
wishes to themselves so we begin with one to whom
it is easier to offer
such thoughts and then come around to the self.
This is not forgiveness, which
is a further
step, but only opening your heart to the pain, the pain of
all beings, and wishing them well.
There is no wrong or right
way to do this practice. If resistance arises, simply note it
and re-enter
the meditation in whatever way
you are able. You are not requested to
dive
all the way in but only to enter as deeply as is comfortable.
As you work with this practice,
please modify it and make it your own.
To be read to/by a friend
or done by oneself. Space indicates a pause. The word "pause" indicates
a longer pause.
Find a comfortable position,
body relaxed, back erect, eyes closed softly.
Bring to the heart and mind
the image of one who for whom there is loving respect. This may be a dear
friend, parent, teacher or any being with whom the primary relationship
is one in which you have been nurtured.
Look deeply at that being,
deeper than you ever have before, and see that he or she has suffered.
He has felt pain of the body or the heart. She has known grief, loss and
fear. He has felt loneliness and disconnection. She has lost and confused.
See the ways this dear one has suffered.
Speaking silently from the
heart, note this one's pain, offering first the name:
You have suffered. I see how
you have felt alone, afraid, in pain. You have felt grief. You have felt
alienated, felt your heart closed. Your life has not always brought you
what you might have wished for.
What loving thoughts can you
offer this dear one? Let the thoughts come with the breath, arising and
moving out.
May you be free of suffering.
May you be happy.
May you love and be loved.
May you find the healing that
you seek.
May you find peace.
Please continue silently, repeating
these phrases for several minutes. Go slowly. Allow your heart to connect
with this dear one, to open to his/her pain and offer these wishes, prompted
by the loving heart.
Pause . . .
Now let this loved one move
aside and in his / her place invite in your own self. It is sometimes
so hard to open our hearts to ourselves. What blocks that love? Just for
experiment sake, please follow the practice and see how it feels, even
if it is difficult.
Look deeply at the self and
observe that, just as with the loved one, you have suffered. You have
felt pain of the body or the heart. You have known grief, loss and fear.
You have felt loneliness and disconnection, felt lost and confused. See
the ways you have suffered. Without engaging in maudlin self-pity, simply
observe the wounds you have borne.
Speaking silently from the
heart, this time to your own self. Offer your name:
I have suffered. I see how
I have felt alone, afraid, in pain. I have felt grief. I have felt alienated,
felt my heart closed. My life has not always brought I what I might have
wished for.
What do you wish for yourself?
May I be free of suffering.
May I be happy.
May I love and be loved.
May I find the healing that
I seek.
May I find peace.
Please continue silently, repeating
these phrases for several minutes. Go slowly. Allow your heart to connect
with your deepest self, to open to your pain and longing and offer these
wishes, prompted by the loving heart. I will be quiet.
Pause . . .
Now let the self move aside
and in its place invite in one with whom there has been hard feeling.
Best not to choose the heaviest relationship at first but allow practice
with less difficult pain and move slowly to the heavier emotions.
It is so painful to maintain
that separation. A wise teacher has said, "Never put anyone out of your
heart." What blocks opening?
Letting go …
Just for experiment sake, please
follow the practice and see how it feels, even if it is difficult. Please
express your own pain too, as you speak to this one. Can you feel the
space where your pain is one?
Give this one's name. Speak
from your heart.
You have hurt me, through your
words, your acts, even your thoughts.
Through what came from you
I have experienced pain.
Yet when I look deeply, I see
that you have also known pain. You have suffered. I see how you have felt
alone, afraid, in pain. You have felt grief. You have felt alienated,
felt your heart closed. Your life has not always brought you what you
might have wished for.
May you be free of suffering.
May you be happy.
May you love and be loved.
May you find the healing that
you seek.
May you find peace.
Please continue silently, repeating
these phrases for several minutes. Go slowly. Allow your heart to connect
with this one, to open to his/her pain and offer these wishes, prompted
by the loving heart. I will be quiet.
Pause . . .
Throughout the world, beings
suffer. Not only humans but plants, insects, animals, even the earth herself.
May all beings everywhere be
free of suffering. May all beings be happy.
May all love and be loved.
May all find the healing that they seek.
May all beings everywhere find
perfect peace.
Stephen Levine is a
poet and teacher of guided meditation healing
techniques. He and his wife and spiritual partner, Ondrea, have
counseled the dying and their loved ones for more than 30 years.
Stephen Levine's bestselling books Healing into Life and Death; A
Gradual Awakening; and A Year to Live are considered classics
in
the field of conscious living and dying. He is also the coauthor, with
Ondrea, of the acclaimed To Love and Be Loved; and Who Dies?
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